Keyhane S.
Breastfeeding mom and her emotional support requirement
I'm breastfeeding my baby, its midnight and I'm too sleepy; my husband wakes up and give me a glass of milk, he is waiting for the baby to finish his milk, then he take him back to his bed and my baby gradually goes to sleep...
After giving birth, women faces different challenges emotionally and spiritually; they really need the supports of those around. In many families, her mother, sister or close friend play the supporter role though, fathers should be the main players here. Contrary to common believes, breastfeeding is not a female-job but it's a responsibility of both parent. When the wife feels the support of her husband, she feeds the baby in peace and tranquility which affects the quality and quantity of her milk. Fathers should help their wives in chorus and caring of the baby.
His presence during breastfeeding strengthens the threesome relationship between parents and new born baby. Moreover, the diet of mother and providing her food compliments and enough time to rest, are other responsibilities of fathers. Encouraging mother is also another factor leaving effects on the milk production of mothers. Many fathers feel confused after the birth of babies; particularly after the birth of their first child when their two-by-two relationship is about to change; i.e. the presence of a third person who has taken all the time and passion of their wives; that's why fathers feel being secondary in this new relationship. So Participating in the process of breastfeeding encourages him, by making him feel useful and is effective in prevention of depression.
Breastfeeding mom and mental heath
I'm breastfeeding my baby; angry and depressed; he is drinking milk but from time to time he turns his face; feeling impatient and I don't know what to do....
We have heard many many times: ''when you are angry, don't give the baby your milk, its taste is not good'' or ''never give bad news to new breastfeeding mom, it has negative effects on her milk quantity.''
Practically moms knew that the mental condition leaves effects on their milk and consequently on their infants. Nowadays, the studies have proved this common belief.

Doctors say that children, whose moms are suffering from mental anxiety while feeding them, are probably more in danger of digestive problems. The components of mother's milk changes by stress and the anxiety is transmitted to the baby while hugging him. We don't mean moms should stop breastfeeding here but also we are emphasizing the importance of mothers' need to mental peace; this point should be highly regarded by the father; who should watch his manners toward his wife. Pressures such as financial problems, work missions, changing place of living, marital problems, and babies' sickness could have negative effects on the amount of mother milk. Permanent fear and concerns also stops the milk flow.
Consider that before birth, baby had been in a secure, calm and warm space; and they are seeking this situation after birth too. The only voice they have heard has been their mother's heart bit rate. Moms practically knew that infant are more at ease while drinking milk from their left breast; its reason is the sound of their hear bit rate and the positive feeling it triggers in their baby.
Breastfeeding moms and spirituality
I'm doing daily routines of chorus; Azan is heard. I see the milk flow on my clothes; I hear my baby crying, I take wudu, hug my baby, and sit toward Qibla and murmur: in the name of Allah, the compassionate, their merciful...
As mentioned above, Islam has considered mother's milk very effective and important on the child bearing; so that some points are highly recommended:
1. Mom should sit toward Qibla
2. she should sit where is not usurpation
3. she should be clean and it's better she takes wudu
4. she should pray while breastfeeding, saying zhikr and avoids backbiting and gossip seriously
5. Her milk should be formed from Halal food; she should refrain from eating any food.
These points are not just to be followed in breastfeeding but their importance is increased in this period and will lead to having a pious, healthy and salih child. And this is in women power to fulfill this possibility.
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